Dealing With Liars
Liars make every situation all about themselves. They lack courage, it is impossible for them to look at themselves as vulnerable or not good enough, so they embellish. They eventually destroy their reputation, and wind up with very few friends.
Habitual lying is breed out of poor behaviour and underdeveloped social interaction. The medical world views pathological lying as a sociopathy. For the most part, those who habitually lie lack empathy towards others, many take on over compensating mannerisms like smiling too big or being humorous. Sometimes their lies are spewed out of cruelty and revenge, sometimes out of the thrill. No two liars are the same.
Experts say the best way to deal with a liar is by confronting them. An excellent route is through mediation. Trained professionals are able to identify the emotional pattern that exists between a victim and a liar. Reprimanding will bring about anger and is that worth while? Compassionate observation is often more appropriate because the person or persons (because lying is a learned behaviour found in families) needs to identify the unacceptable interaction themselves.
Admittedly hard, a more peaceful route to getting along is to say to the morally lost is “I acknowledge you are struggling with issues, you have my attention, how do I help you… stop this hurtful behaviour?. But know that, I cannot have you in my life or even acknowledge you.
Then you can be able to look forward to some civil interaction, or be prepared…to remove this person/people completely from your life. Life is too short to include unnecessary conflicts. Thank yourself for going through the lesson, and move on.
